
Shopping, does that word fill you with dread? Especially this time of year when the shops are busy and you have children in tow. I was in the supermarket the other day and there was a little girl of about 4 years of age with her Mum and she wanted a comic with all those attractive plastic toys attached to it. Mum said 'no' so the little girl started shouting, Mum walked away and the little girl refused to move, Mum tried to pick her up to move her away and she threw herself to the floor screaming, Mum shouted and at this point, the little girl then let out the most piercing scream I have ever heard! It stopped every shopper in their tracks, all eyes were on Mum for the next move. Mum then got down to the little girl's level and tried saying 'NO' quietly, the little girl did not like this and ended up having a full blown temper tantrum on the floor. Mum was so embarrassed, that she took the comic off the shelf and gave it to the little girl, the little girl instantly stopped the noise and walked back to Mum with a big smile on her face probably thinking to herself 'YES, Mum has given in once again.' Unfortunately for Mum, she will never be able to take her little girl to a supermarket again without buying her a magazine. How could she have done things differently? Supermarkets are not really set up to support a poor parent when out shopping as it is full of brightly coloured must haves for a child.
Ideas that maybe could have helped poor Mum are - give your child a small amount of pocket money every week for doing their chores, even at that age they can help by putting their toys away, laying the table, hanging their coat up etc. Talk to them about saving their pocket money so that they will be able to afford to buy the comic for themselves. Make the supermarket a fun place to go, let them help with certain items on the shopping list by having their own list with six or so items on it, if they can write the words let them do that or they can draw a picture shopping list. If it is one of those amazing supermarkets that has little shopping trolleys, let them have their own trolley, let them find the items on the list, count out the bananas, weigh the apples etc. Shopping can be so boring for children so try to make it as interesting as possible, pretend that you can't find a certain item and allow them to lead you to it, they will be so proud of themselves. Maybe allow one additional item to add to their trolley at the end that they weren't expecting such as some biscuits, sweets, crisps etc, you can tell them that is their special treat for being so helpful. Children love to be involved and think that they are being helpful. This may all take a little bit more time and energy but not as much as trying to cope with a child that is having a tantrum.
In the event that your child does have a meltdown in a shop because they want something, just don't give in, if you have said 'NO', then stick to that. Ride the storm and ignore all the comments from the passing shoppers, after all, they aren't the ones who have to take your child shopping every week!
Our thought for the week is:
Focus on what you can control and make progress one step at a time.
If you have a parenting concern, you can contact Mrs Easty via the school office - admin@burlingtoni.org.uk